Does sometimes backing off and maybe taking a step back help in relationships.. Because lately I feel like I am the only one doing things to make my guy happy and well I just need to be told somethings and shown some things.. And lately he isn't doing that.. And I feel like I am not appreciated enough and everything I do for him isn't appreciated.. What do I do??
Anonymous
Let him know about how you feel. And if he realizes his mistake then good then you guys can work together to sort it out. But if he doesn’t then yeah I would suggest backing off a little might help to remind him that he can’t take you for granted and that you deserve better. But when I say back off I don’t mean being mean and snapping at him and things like that. I mean maybe you could reduce the small little things that you do for him which goes bu unnoticed or unappreciated by him. Its true you know “You don’t realize how much something means to you unless you have lost it” maybe then he might realize and change. I hope this helps.
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Sugar :)
ok. so there is this guy right.he is my neighbour and he is really hot and the nicest guy you could ask for. but he is twenty sumthin an im 16. and he flirts with me all the time and i dont no what to do. there is a wierd connection between us. its like, when we see each other its as if we are primary school kids with puppy love. what do i do?
Anonymous
If you have real feelings and think the you guys can make this work then sure go ahead.. Ask him out.. But otherwise just leave it.. Its something for you to decide.. I can’t help much on this sorry.
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Okay, i'm 17.
I have liked this boy for months and months now. He only saw me as a friend (he had a girlfriend), then he split up with his girlfriend and fell for my best friend so they got really really close (which killed me), then he got back with his girlfriend and forgot about my best friend. Then my best friend became my ex best friend so she was out of the picture and he split up with his girlfriend again and got really really close with me (for about a week) and then got back with his girlfriend.
And now I can't stop thinking about him one bit. He flirts wth me like crazy sometimes and sends me text messages that anyone would look at and say "he wants you" or "he likes you" or "hes flirting with you".
But yet he's still with his girlfriend.
Now its getting to the point where I am so upset over all of this that I cry most nights or get upset/angry over it all. I try to get over him but then I see him and I forget about it all. I want him to be happy and thats obviously when he is with his girlfriend so I keep thinking that I should back off and leave him alone but it's so hard, I just don't know what to do..
Anonymous
He is not the guy for you! He has an on and off relationship with his girlfriend and he flirts with you! I hope you see whats wrong hon.. You should slowly get away from him and find someone who gets you like no one else does.. And trust me you will find someone like that.. I know its going to be hard to get over this guy but in time it will happen and you will have to do it.. You have to find someone who cares about your happiness.. This guy is not worth your tears..
Hope this helped :)
Love,
Sugar
hey, urmm so heres the thing, im scared my boyfriend is falling in love with my best friend, i know she likes someone else, but shes just the kind of girl whos free around most guys, he has so much fun with her, and hes not like that with me, im scared im loosing him...what do i do
Anonymous
you have to talk to him…tell him how hes making you feel, he has to know…and your best friend, make sure that she would never do something like that to you..if you cant talk to him, you atleast know you can talk to her…get it sorted with her…girls dont betray their girls like that…not that they dont..there not supposed to…her answer tells you where you stand…but your in a relationship with him..you deserve to be happy, you deserve to make him happy and he should be happy with you too..ie if your relationship is meant to work out…otherwise girl it just isnt…
do what you have to do, get things straight. with both of them, im sure they will understand. if it doesnt work, come to me for plan b :P
hope his helped, love spice
ok so there is this guy and me and him were good friends. Then something happened and we ended up being friends with benifits, now this guy thinks that he owns me and that i should do what he wants. If i dont do what he wants he threatens me but i cant tell if he is joking or not. I know that he thinks that he owns me because he has said that he owns me, and that im his.
please help...
Anonymous
hey, you need to think about how he said it…you know how people are when they are in relationships right? they want to be the other persons someone. but since you dont feel that way about him, you need to mark your territory. you need to explain to him that he doesnt own you and that he has no control over you. if you feel threatened at all tell him that, if he cares he will tell you hes joking…if he doesnt, get out of what you got yourself into because no one has the right to make you feel like that alright??
hope this helped
love spice
Hello, im danielle.. i have a situation.. not a relationship but thats where i need advise at. i like this boy i hang with almost everyday.. i really like him andi think he knows it.. but he and i flirtedd alott and got reallly close one night.. like we kissed and he kept calling me his baby. but the next day comes around and its just like nothing happend.. it makes me so confused and im really shy so im not going to ask him and feel stupid + possibly losing our friendship.. idk what to think... and he looks at me alot. thought id throw that in there lol.. i want to be with him so bad i just need a good apention that achually helps me instead of just " ask him "or somethinn.. well pls write me backk.
Anonymous
hmm firstly you need to decide whether you want a relationship with him alright.
you cant help it, you just have to talk to him, boys are arses when it comes to making the first move, so if you see a future with you two, go and ask him about that night, tell him youve been thinking about it, and that you know you felt something, tell him that if he felt it too they should talk about it cause its sort of misleading you. if he doesnt give you a proper answer wait for a day or two (guys dont really think when they speak, but they do think about what you say later)…if he was into you at all helle make a move..or else youll get a hint right?
if he says no he doesnt feel that way about you, and that he was just fooling around (trust me they do that way more than you think they do ), keep him around if he is a really good friend of yours…if he is he will probably explain it to you in a really nice way…if he gets mad or just brushes you off…hes not even worth it hon
hope this helped
love spice
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Ok, I have a problem...I really like this guy (lets call him Tom) but anyway I dont want to ask him out because I'm terrified of regection. I've known him since year 6 and I'm now year 11. We have some lessons together but he doesnt often speek to me in frount of his friends or when I'm with his sister, so i guess we dont talk all that much in person but when we do it always makes me smile and he's always smiling too. But anyway his sister (Jess) wasnt on the bus last wednesday so I walked back with him, we talked and i turned at the corner towards mine and walked to the corner (not that far tbh) and stopped and looked back. When i looked back i saw that Tom had stopped and turned and was looking at me. He always says hi if he sees me even if i'm with my friends and he's with his, and apologises if he doesnt. One of the days i was waiting for Jess and he got on the bus and gestured for me to sit upstairs but i didnt because i was waiting for jess. I'm really confused because i dont know if he likes me or not.
Anonymous
hey, i cant tell you if he likes you or not, but i can tell you what you can do to find out.
first , just get more close to him alright? make sure you have a firm friendship, that you know can lead to something more..text him often, talk to him more, find out what he likes, and tell him what you like…go for a movie together and all that…if he seems to reciprocate any of that then maybe he likes you too…it might take a while but it will be worth it in the end, and well you might save yourself the hurt…
after all that just ask him who he likes, what kind of girl is his type…if he subtly hints qualities related to you, you will know…
if you want to skip all that , you can ask him out now, just be straightforward with it..tell him how you feel…never let the fear of striking out stop you from playing the game..
hope this helped
love
spice
